Often we go through life wearing masks that hide

Kia Ora, kia ora,

This past week has reflected the need to be in essence, to stand tall and to be strong in all we do and say.  It isn't always easy, for there are times when all we want to do is hide, or be left alone, to live life at a level where mediocrity reigns.

Totara manawa kaha

 tu pono ki te tika

 Ruia, taitea kia tu ko taikaka.

Stout hearted Totara 

 standing straight and true

 The sapwood surrounds the heart wood beneath.

Often we go through life wearing masks that hide the real us.  When we remove the masks, true beauty is revealed.

From Atarangi:  The Totara tree is a metaphor that talks of ones stoutheartedness and being straight and true.  When life zaps and saps us, we can and do put masks on to hide the truth of our situation.  Even from ourselves sometimes.

But we have to take on the persona of the Totara tree and be strong, be straight and be true, to no one else but ourselves first and foremost.

Once we have done that, life becomes easy, we drop the mask, we participate and communicate, with the self, with each other, with the world at large.

Waste no time hiding.  Shine in all your glory.

© Atarangi Muru 2020

Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
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Today's reading reflects our diversity and our roles. 

Kia Ora, Kia Ora,

Today's reading reflects our diversity and our roles.  Some days we get it in absolute technicolor.   Our great WHY and how it can be done with ease and joy and absolute abundance, that highlights our individuality.

Kia maumahara

 kia tou mana hua ake

Cherish 

your absolute uniqueness

Mana refers to power, charisma, prestige, pride.  Each person has their own personal mana.

From Atarangi:  Mana is a word used often with little heed to its truth within us.  Mana is my power and authority to be, do, and have in a life that is fulfilling and serves me.  When we get this level of understanding within ourselves, gratitude for being who you are and what you do invades the body, the mind, the heart.  Life changes, fulfillment follows you.

Atarangi muru 2020 ©

E hoki ki to maunga teitei

Kia Ora, Kia Ora,

E hoki ki to maunga teitei

 kia purea nei koe

 I nga hau a Tawhirimatea.

Return to your highest mountain

 and there be cleansed

 by the winds of Tawhirimatea.

The mountains of the mind form the highest peaks.  The cleansing winds of Tawhirimatea, (guardian spirit of winds) are in our every breath.

From Atarangi:  I often use the proverb to connect to my mountain whose name is Whangatautia (in Ahipara).  I call upon her when I'm needing strength for a task ahead of me that is challenging and may be fraught with fear and anxiety for the person I'm working with and on.

I will call upon and use the healing winds of Tawhirimatea to go in to every nook and  every crevice, every plane, every valley of that persons body and mind.  Nothing is left untouched.  And on the healing winds of Tawhirimatea I will call out the persons name, knowing a great healing will come forth.


© Atarangi 2020

Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
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I have known Makuini Ruth Tai

Kia ora, kia ora,

I wanted to share some stunning yet simple writings from a friend of mine.

I have known Makuini Ruth Tai, for well over 30 plus years.  In 1992 she wrote a book called 'He Taonga Whakahirahira - Treasures that Energise'.

I still have a book from her given to me that long ago and I still use it often.

For the next few blog sections, I will share one or two of her writings at a time.  

I hope this is ok with you Miss Makuini.  Many blessings always and to all Atarangi.

Ka turamarama ra e to hinengaro

Your invisible woman stands radiant.

The hinengaro is the invisible female inside each person.  She is the source of enlightenment.

From Atarangi:  For many, the ability to trust that invisible female does not come easy.  The more one practices, the stronger her voice becomes.

You practice and make effective choices by hearing and then heeding that first voice which is the right voice to follow.

© Atarangi Muru 2020

Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
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TIWAWE

This video will show Tiwawe is a specific type of movement that is:

- a complete healing tool, invigorates the body, moves the internal waters, helps to release old patterning in the mind and the body, quell’s constant mental thinking brings one to present time, oxygenates the blood electrifies the spinal column, enlivens the immune system, rejuvenates the vascular and muscular system, settles nervous activity in the body

- good for children with ADHD 

- helps with general aches pains of the body

- good if done gently for the elderly

- good for those who have cancer and cannot handle touch on the body

If this work is done correctly and gently it can move mountains and quell 'storms' within the body.  

For those who are tougher body and require a more in-depth move, Tiwawe can be done strongly in its push / pull movement, making the waters in the belly massage the internal organs, including the gut, and enlivening the spinal column through the bodyweight on the spine.

Tiwawe can help those who have neck and shoulder issues, through gentle movements.  As long as the person is relaxed and 'lets the neck go' the chin will move in an up and down motion, like a long nod.  This is freeing to the neck, especially if one holds tightness there and can allow the movement to soothe the muscles.

In the belly, I use this method prior to working with a woman who has fertility issues and or is prone to having 'trouble' with her period.

Keep checking the person you are working on, ensuring they aren't starting to hurt at the ankles (from your grip), at the lower back because it will stimulate that area and open it up.

 

The breath

Ha ki roto, ha ki waho - Breath in, breath out:

A short healing practice before getting out of bed, that uplifts your day.

Deep breathing

- breathe in on the count of 8

- hold for the count of 8

- breath out for the count of 8

- do this 10 times

- have a great day

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

Takutaku  -  Tara mau Te Rangirangi

Takutaku  -  Tara mau Te Rangirangi

Tara mau te Rangirangi

Tara mau te nukunuku

Te nuku rau aa pae rangi

Te nuku rau aa pae kura 

Kei tuua o Paerau

Kei tuua o Te Aarai

E here nei aa Hine Ruuaki Moe

E kootiutiu aa Rua-Te-Puupuke

E tika taaku haere

E awe nei taaku tirohanga 

Hei aawha  te wana o taaku kiri

Kia toki te huuaringaringa nei

An origin chant- From an ancient time

Beyond the heavens

Before the earth 

Behind the abode of the ancients

Further still is the home of the externals

Beyond the gathering place of the many

Beyond the veil of death

Where all are tied to Hine Regenerator of Sleep

The fiery cold of Rua-Te-Puupuke

Where my journey is confirmed

And the awe of my being is sought after

Validated by the surrounding of my skin

Giving birth to one such as I. 

Ancient Māori chants like takutaku code the evolutionary levels of consciousness that we progress through. Experiences at each level lead us to understand how to live within our current reality.   The translation alerts us to the next level of consciousness that we are transitioning to. 

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

Kanuka

Kanuka is the healer she is feminine in her way and the way she works in and outside the body. Kanuka is the sister to Manuka, albeit she stands strong in her own rite and lore as a healer. Mkanuka’s role is to ground the person as well as heal and while doing that give people clarity about themselves. This happens when we listen closely to ourselves.

© Atarangi Muru 2020

2020 is a number 4 year

2020 is a number 4 year

The year of:

Destiny

Material creation

Profound change.  

Let yourself feel the pain.  You are allowed to be bold in your pain and how you handle it.   You are allowed to learn from it.  And let it heal you. 

Duty can be traced to the Latin word for debt. To have a duty is to have a debt. Though it means nothing until someone collects.  Don’t do something because you have to. Do it because you want to. Because your fires inside are burning so hot you know doing it will bring change. Bring renewal. Release something or someone.  Take risks. With yourself. With your love. Then you can say, ‘My God!  Those were the days’.

We have an unshakeable, unbreakable drive we are born with that cannot be broken and cannot be taught. It’s called Wairua/spirit. 

There are no innocent bystanders in the crowd anymore. If you see something say something or do something. 

We’re isolating ourselves too much. 

In one's life there is that one mistake that will

change your life. If one is lucky it’s for the better.

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

I am formed by the landscape of my growing years

Atarangi;

I am formed by the landscape of my growing years and what was there. The people, the places, things, feelings, love, lack of love, truth, lack of truth, more. The ancestral bloodline that gives me some traces to a people and a past that I may have journeyed in myself at that time with a different identity. They used to call me a handful, I remember my mum tying me to a chair because she couldn’t spend her time chasing after me when she had children before me and after me.  Many was the time when my parents frustration boiled over and I paid a physical price. I was blessed to have people around me who had patience and understanding and took the time to quell a rambunctious child with a big personality. I often say, ‘had I have been born in this day and age I would have been shoved on Retalin to try and control my behaviour’. I really was 2 or 3 children rolled in to one.

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

When we are in universal flow and timing, life is full,

Kia Ora, Kia Ora,

When we are in universal flow and timing, life is full, joy is there in leaps and bounds.  We know this is the place to be.  These are the people to be with.  This is the job or the car, or the journey, or the person to love.  We are guided and then fulfilled by what is occurring in our lives because things get done with ease.

 Whaia te iti kahurangi

 ki te tuohu koe

 me he maunga teitei

Follow the smallest blue light

 If you should bow down

 let it be to a lofty mountain

From Atarangi:  Make effective choices about what you will do.  Go for nothing less than the small blue light and the greatest mountain to climb in your life.

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

Healing:

Healing:

A God-given gift bestowed upon each and every person the ability to heal the self no matter what

Known and well-utilized techniques in our traditions and many other cultural nations for healing the self ie raakaau

Challenge:

A must for the safe harbor and well being of future generations

Kindness:

In this, I mean lack of judgment of others and their choices in life 

Be available, help when asked, roll your sleeves up and do the work when not wanted yet always needed. Don’t feed the masses from your pocket, instead educate and inspire from what you know then introduce them to the next teacher to continue their growth (not necessarily in your field of knowledge)

Passion:

True passion is beyond focus, beyond intention, these are steps on the ladder for some and it suits them

For others, it’s to step out of fear, family, cultural restrictions and lore, to venture into the land of No-thingness where the greatest possibility exists and create from there 

How:

By healing the world.  Most definitely. Done one person at a time, who talks to another person in their time and so it goes

Stupidity:

Is always energetically dealt with

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

Birthing - Pregnancy presentation

I presented on the Waiora Weaving Wananga (Wai - water / Ora - Healing or Health or Well being / wananga - meeting / gathering, learning), with Joanne Rama, a stunning Maori Midwife that I have had the pleasure of knowing and working alongside from time to time over the many years.


Part of the presentation today was;- first time pregnancy- first time mothers wanting to know what to expect- repeat pregnancy's- student midwives in training- fathers who wanted to connect more with their pepi (baby)- and to support the mother during her pregnancywhich was great and offered to Joanne and I a mixed bag of many possibilities.

During our zoom meet, I shared stories from my elders, like working with Papa Joe (Delamere) who had a passion for haputanga - pregnancy including fertility, birthing in a good way, and empowerment for the whanau (family) during this time and after the birth.

Aunty Heni Phillips, had the ability to connect with the pepi in the womb and was able to relate to the parents what this child would be like, temperament, challenging, a questioner or quiet child, nature or home life, sea or land baby and more.

I remember sitting with Aunty Heni and a baby was fussing when her mother brought her into the clinic.  She touched a particular spot at the back of the head where the motoi (types of pressure points are) and gently stimulated them with a gentle rub.  The child settled almost immediately and the mum was able to get some down time to herself as her baby slept for 3 hours.

There are no great keys to life or to child raising in this case.  Being the best you can be in each moment is really what it is about.

Know and learn when your child's cry is one of hunger, pain, annoyance, lonely, afraid, wants a nappy (diaper/kopi) change,  feels an energy (they are absolutely sensitive to any and all energy) they don't like, feels an energy they do like and more.

I get asked all the time about a pacifier / binky (comforter blanket, toy, shirt etc).  My preference is to not use a dummy (otherwise known as a pacifier) or get them used to a binky.  These are signalling that the child wants connection, soothing, or one on one time with you (the parent).  

I have listed some scenarios:

- you start to teach them early to keep their mouth closed

- to swallow words or be quiet

- they get used to stuffing their mouth with something

- can affect the roof of the mouth

- can change the way the new teeth will sit in the gum

- is known to keep airways open for babies (re early infant death SIDS)

- is often sort when a is afraid / tired / anxious

Ways to help?  While these are not hard and fast in terms of coping and rules to follow, they do offer a little help:

- allow your baby to cry to the end (they will stop when they are ready)

- we often stop them early because we're in a public situation

- or have had enough 

- we need a break

- noisy or loud crying 

- baby is seeking attention 

- signalling fear

Above can be handled by first making sure your energy is calm and loving then;

- cuddling your baby

- soothing them with a gentle hug

- a loving smile on your face

- humming while holding them to your chest 

- looking at them in the eyes 

- reassuring them through a soft tone that they are fine

- changing their state (pick them up and move outside / or inside / or point at a plane in the sky / the cat / the dog / the cow etc

As new parents, maintenance and resilience is much needed during this time.  If you are close to your family, both physically and emotionally, ask them for help.  

I adored the time with my grandsons, when I could and took real liberties (in terms of time and bonding) with both of them.  I was lucky with my daughter and daughter in law that they allowed this to happen.

If you are physically distanced from your family (different town, city, island, country) then start creating friendships with other women who are pregnant.

Kohanga reo centres, playgroups, ECE centres, plunket, marae, will have access to these resources.

Allow the father the time to bond and connect with the child during pregnancy and after. Be confident in all you do.

Know that you have brought into this world someone totally unique that has never been before and will never be again.

Many, many years ago, our first times in LA and I was stymied by the questions people were asking about their babies.  They would show me the Babies for Dummies, or How to Birth and Look Good, Baby Blues before they come and a plethora of other books that addressed the milestones of each situation and what to expect.

For a long time this stumped me, I couldn't figure out why it made me uncomfortable until one day sitting with Melissa and her baby and watching her with Aunty Heni and how Aunty Heni just picked up Taataa like it was her own.

That was when I realised, people were learning how to parent from books and not real situations.  Not saying the books weren't necessary or needed, but they weren't flesh and warmth, comfort and hugs.

Aunty Heni would pick Taataa up and gently cuddle her, sway with her in her arms and link in with her via the eyes and acknowledging that things were right in the world.

And that was when I also realised that the book was rigid and solid and not moving along with the child's growth, whatever phase that would be.

Some babies were fast, others slow.  Some crawl at 8 months, others womble along at 18 months.  Teeth showed at 6, 7 or 8 months, while others had no teeth or 1 tooth for months before something else happened.

What I'm getting at here is there are no hard and fast rules for when a baby gets it.  When to wean.  When to stand.  When to talk and in fact babies are talking pre birth, all the time.

If baby is not settling, don't fuss, it is usually the energy you are emitting.  In all cases offered below, please make sure baby is safe or with someone if you have to go away from them to change YOUR state of being.

Frustration can be turned into a 2 minute walk around the house by yourself.  Make sure you look at the trees, the birds, the land, the colour of your neighbours house, the stars, use this time to become present and in the moment.

Anger can be transmuted by getting several pillows and stacking them up, then hitting them with as much of the feeling you are holding on to as you can.  

If you have the luxury of going outdoors and letting an almighty scream go, then do it.  In fact do it anyway, in another room.

Tiredness, go out in the garden, in the backyard, on the balcony and stamp your feet.  Jump up and down, rid the body of that tiredness, make it 2 minutes full on.  

Stretch or meditate.

Go within, go quiet.

When done, go to the bathroom, wash your face and hands, comb your hair, look yourself in the eyes and KNOW you are ok.

Go back to your baby with all upset evacuated from the body and the energy field.

By the way, well done.  This is what being a parent is.

Find you some tools.  Learn them.  Use them.  Be easy on yourself.  Ask for help.

So mums and dads relax.  Breathe easy knowing that doing your best is all that is needed in that moment.

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

Bob Marley said, “You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”

For the Taos Reconciliation Hui, September 2020. 

Bob Marley said, “You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”

A creed or reason for Wahine Rangimarie - Peace-Keeping Woman;

⁃ love one another

⁃ share what you have 

⁃ be compassionate

⁃ heal the wounds

⁃ transform yourself / transforms the family

Let’s start with silence. It allows us to feel the depth of our being. 

I would rather sit with someone for an hour in silence and have a deep 5-minute conversation than sit with someone for an hour and talk of surface feelings. That lacks connection and detaches the soul. 

Through robust conversation that is the shared and known reality? People are ravaged by their thinking, their prejudices, their singular heart.   Community, sisterhood, brotherhood bring about change, connection. We need a rigorous way of supporting people with this issue, identify a / the need or needs, and create balance. Do our best to have a diverse perspective with the communities that we work / teach within. 

What can come from this?  My incentive. Create a Reconciliation dance, song, movement of healing that becomes celebrated by each tribal area, group, and is women lead. 

Circle of women and waiata A I O.  IO E AU. I am God. God am I.  What is our sonic texture that connects feelings and frequencies.  

Aaaaaa.  Eeeeee.  Iiiiii.  Oooooo.  Uuuuuu. OR. Iiiiii.  Oooooo.  Eeeeee.  Aaaaaa. Uuuuu. 

FEAR!  Paperwork - write your things down - create a circle - everyone read out loud at the same time. 

What is my fundamental reasoning/thinking with this? How does one bring in Dignity, Grace, Eloquence for the person who has/is tied up to the behavior that continues around them, is part of them, models the future with their young (choice)

What is a healthy contribution to Indigenous people?  To victims?  To perpetrators? 

What does Reconciliation mean?

How can I use what I know to help this situation?

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

THE JOY OF MEDITATION - Thai Jason (Aunty Thai

THE JOY OF MEDITATION

 

Meditation is often misunderstood.  It has nothing to do with a specific religion or culture or faith.  Meditation is about getting in contact with your higher self.  There is a saying, “We are spirit having a human experience.”  The human part can be, and often is, a bit frazzled and frenzied so let’s make the effort to tune into the spirit part, what we call one’s higher self.

 

Let’s begin by relaxing the body.  That is not so easy to accomplish what with our hectic life style.  Let’s begin by being present to ourselves.  See yourself.  Really see yourself.  If you are sitting in a chair see yourself sitting in the chair.  Place your feet flat on the ground, your bum snuggled comfortably in the seat and your hands on your thighs above your knees.  Locate the places that are tight, where you are holding tension and make the effort to relax.  

 

Relax.

 

Let’s begin near the top of the head.  The crown chakra is near the center of the head.  In a newborn baby it is called the fontanelle.   It is that soft spot that must be protected in a newborn until it closes up.  I believe that that is where the soul enters the body at birth and where it leaves the body when our journey on Earth is completed. 

Relax.

 

Find that spot. Imagine a bright light from above, a golden ray of divine light entering the crown.  Let it swirl around the inside of your head bathing your brain in golden light.  Enlightening its different areas front and back.  Really let that golden ray light up all the parts of your brain.  Enjoy the experience.  

 

Relax.

Now move the light to your third eye.  It is between the eyebrows.  Feel the ray of light increase in intensity.  Sit with that for a moment.  Enjoy the pulsating light just above the area between your eyebrows.  It is called your wisdom eye.  Feel the glow.  Enjoy it

 

Relax.  

 

Let your shoulders relax.  Let your spine relax.  Lower your breath to that deep belly area.  Breathe.  Enjoy the deep belly breathing.  It will reduce or eliminate stress in your body, in your mind.

 

Relax.

 

Allow your mind to quiet, witness the thinking, the story, the thought.  That is normal.  It is called the monkey mind.  Yap, yap, yap.  Yap, yap, yap.  

Relax.

 

Go back to the golden light.  Center it in your heart.  Feel the golden light align with the beating of your heart.  Allow your heart to expand with warmth, with light, with love.   Enjoy the feeling.  Say to yourself the words INNER PEACE.  Align the words with your breath.  Say them over and over until you feel even more relaxed, more present.

(Quietly - INNER PEACE, INNER PEACE, INNER PEACE).

Relax.

 

Think of a symbol that is meaningful to you perhaps a white candle with a beautiful orange and blue flame, a flower in full bloom, a waterfall.  Make it personal.  Make it something that brings you inner joy and contentment.  Surround that symbol with your breath and on your breath say softly to yourself the words INNER PEACE.  

Relax.

 

Relax your shoulders.  Relax your spine.  Relax your belly.  Let the golden light fill your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.  Wherever there is tension or blockage make the effort to let it go.  

 

Relax.  

 

Sit with this feeling of your body filled with light.  Luxuriate in your body’s warmth and in it’s golden glow.

Relax.

 

Keeping your eyes closed, open your inner senses.  Your inner eyes, inner ears, inner voice, inner sense of smell.  Hear your deep inner voice, your spirit voice, your wisdom voice.  Listen.  Really listen.  What is it saying?  Can you hear it?  If you can hear it remember it.  If you can remember it, trust it.  

Relax.

 

That is the beginning of your relationship with your higher self.  It is a place that is available to you, take the time to explore it.  

 

Before you leave take a moment to enjoy the feeling of deep relaxation.  Let go of any areas that want to hold on.  Try to bring some of that relaxed, golden glow back with you.  It will be of great benefit throughout each day.  You will see more, hear more and be more, mindful of your words and actions. 

Relax.

 

It has been a wonderful journey and it is available to you whenever you want, perhaps each morning to start the day and each evening to contemplate the day that was and to prepare for sleep and the new day ahead.  Remember to relax and to be gentle with yourself.  

 

Try to take just a few minutes each day to deeply relax and contact your higher self.  It is, and can continue to be, a divine journey of great joy, insight and soul growth.

 

Now…slowly…open your eyes.   

Thank you!  Enjoy your day.

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

He Taonga - A Gift

He Taonga - A Gift:

The greatest gift we can give to ourselves is to enjoy and appreciate your LIFE!

Remember that and your life will change.  Thank you, God.

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

path way

He ara - a pathway forward:

I am a connector to you Io, my God

As I live, then I am

I create from what you have blessed me, I maintain what is mine to the best of my ability

I live, I love, I enjoy

I will work hard, I will set aside time for myself, my family, my love, my passion in each day even if it be 10 minutes for each, one on one

And as I set aside this time, I am given more, time, effort, joy, peace 

I give thanks

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©

Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
Tiwawe - how to move the internal waters
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Mauri - Life force

Mauri - Life Force:

Everything has a Mauri.  A life force.  

When we are ill, our life force has been compromised.  There are simple techniques we can do, to rejuvenate ourselves, allowing our life force time to recalibrate and re-invigorate itself.

They are:

- Acceptance.  There is a saying that a form of madness is to do the same thing (behavior) over and over again, expecting a different result.  Acceptance is an energetic power, a gift of self-tolerance, and ability to stay within the self, and love that person (yes yourself) warts and all.  If we had the ability to absorb the ego early in life, by the time we reach a good age (teens) it would be done from a place of service and integrated values.  For us as Maori that is a form of Koha.  Koha has been devalued in modern times and for some, it's a way to receive more for less.  Koha at its highest energy is to give without constraint and to your highest ability, whether it be money, your time, your knowledge, a sack of kumara, a dress, a cake.  Once given that energetic 'rush' you feel of goodness and happiness brings forth a simple joy within yourself and you are likely to repeat this deed again and again.

In the movie Chocolat, a character says, "I think we can't go around measuring our goodness by what we don't do, by what we deny ourselves, what we resist and who we exclude.  I think we've got to measure goodness by what we embrace, what we create, and who we include."  That to me is Acceptance. 

- Awareness.  Awareness can be a freak in our natures that were it taught at an early age, without conditioning through fear or not enough, our inner self indeed our inner passion would shine a lot earlier in our lives.  I continue to meet people in their 40's, 50's, 60's, onwards, who don't know what it's like to have a passion or even a passionate life let alone a dream.  Their awareness of their ability is lacking, it hasn't been developed.  An easy way to feel awareness growing in the body is to do something for someone else, unbidden, without thought or reward.  Awareness supports one's freedom to choose.  And raises your empathy and adventure.

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote "it is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.....Serve and thou shall be served."

- Action.  In order to have, to be, to do, to create, action must be part of the picture.  Dream the biggest dreams you can, then create the steps to getting there through action.

Action for me is the maturity of my soul in my body and my life, that has grown with me.  Over my years I have done some really dumb things, and then I have done some really great things.  When reflecting on my life, the negative has popped up first and strongly.  I have worked at balancing this out now and in fact, every time I have a negative thought, my process is to end it with a positive thought.  

I have learned that instead of saying, 'How can I help?', the real question is 'What do you need?'.  In asking that, people stop and give it thought, then come back with truth that either highlight they really wanted and needed 'it' or it's not important anymore.

Atarangi Muru 2020 ©